Holiday Debt Trap: How to Navigate Holiday Spending Without Falling into Debt
- Davina Jackson
- Nov 25, 2024
- 10 min read
Updated: Dec 1, 2024
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The holiday season often comes with a mix of cultural expectations, social pressures, and irresistible sales, making it tough to stick to a budget.
In fact, it's one of the times when people are most likely to rack up new debt, sometimes without even realizing how quickly it adds up.
The pressure to create the "perfect" holiday for family and friends can lead to overspending, whether on gifts, decorations, or travel. Add in the temptation of holiday deals and the expectation to celebrate in style, and it's no wonder our budgets start to feel the strain.
On top of that, social media is flooded with posts of lavish gatherings, luxurious trips, and high-end gifts, triggering that dreaded FOMO (fear of missing out), making it hard to resist the urge to keep up.
But here's the reality: when January rolls around, so do the bills, and many of us are left facing more debt than we anticipated.
In this week's blog post - in celebration of Thanksgiving and the start of holiday shopping - we're going to get real about the holiday debt trap and why we tend to overspend during the holidays. I’ll also show you how to avoid the post-holiday debt surge and, most importantly, the money moves you need to make for a stress-free, successful holiday season.
It might take some effort, but with a little planning and intention, you can enjoy the holidays without the financial strain that often follows.
Are you ready? Let’s go!
Key Points
The mix of holiday sales, social pressures, and traditions makes it easy to overspend, leaving many with post-holiday financial stress.
Stay in control by recognizing your spending triggers, setting a realistic budget, and focusing on meaningful, low-cost alternatives.
Prioritize experiences over things, shop with intention, and stick to a pay-as-you-go strategy to start the new year financially strong.
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Why We Overspend During the Holidays
Nearly 3 in 10 shoppers took on debt to buy holiday gifts in 2023. Of that amount, 28% are still paying it off in 2024. (NerdWallet 2024 Holiday Survey)
The final months of the year are a magical whirlwind of celebrations, nostalgia, and social events.
But they’re also prime time for overspending - where many of us find ourselves spending more than usual even if we intend to stick to a budget.
Why does this pattern happen every year?
Several factors often come into play, ranging from cultural norms to clever marketing and our own desires to make the season memorable.
Let’s break it down:
Factor #1: The Holiday Mindset and Emotional Spending
There’s something about the holiday season that brings out the spender in us. We feel a natural urge to celebrate, and often, that comes with splurging on things we might not normally buy.
It’s a “holiday mindset”, and it isn’t just about being generous. It’s tied to traditions, a sense of joy, nostalgia, and even guilt - making it easy to equate spending with creating happiness.
So while the intention behind our holiday spending can be positive, it can also make you vulnerable to overspending - leading to financial stress later on.
Factor #2: Gift-Giving Expectations
Gift-giving is one of the most universal traditions of the holiday season, but it’s also one of the main reasons year-end spending spikes up.
Between family, friends, coworkers, and even holiday parties where a “little something” is expected, the list of people to buy for can be overwhelming (and exhausting).
Add in the desire to buy meaningful or impressive gifts and costs can escalate quickly.
Factor #3: Sales and Marketing Pressure
Retailers know that we’re more likely to open our wallets during the holiday season, and they’re not shy about ramping up the marketing efforts.
Black Friday, Cyber Monday, and countless other year-end sales - like Flash sales, “limited-time” discounts, and “must-have” items - are strategically designed to entice you and make it feel like you’re losing out if you don’t take advantage. (Think “hurry-up and buy”)
While these deals can save money if planned for, not all of them fulfill a “need” and often divert attention away from what is truly valuable to you.
Factor #4: FOMO and Social Influence
In the era of social media, it’s easy to fall into the “fear of missing out” (FOMO) trap.
Seeing friends or influencers posting about their holiday decor, travel plans, or extravagant gifts can make you feel the need to keep up - leading you to spend more than intended (or can afford).
But, what you see online often represents highlights, not real life.
Remember, everyone’s financial journey is unique. It may look impressive on a screen, but in reality, what you see online may not align with your goals or your wallet.
Factor #5: Year-End Bonuses and Financial Windfalls
The last quarter often brings financial perks like holiday bonuses, tax refunds, or year-end commissions.
While it’s great to have extra funds, these bonuses can sometimes create a “treat yourself” mentality because when we see a little extra in our bank accounts, we may feel justified in splurging on things we’ve been eyeing all year.
But without a plan, this extra income can quickly disappear, leaving you with more debt than anticipated when the holiday season ends.
Factor #6: Planning for a New Year – New Goals, New Investments
This one doesn’t get as much attention as it should, but I’m going to call it out.
As the end of the year approaches, there’s often an urge to prepare for the year ahead - leading to spending on things like gym memberships, new wardrobes, or tools for personal development.
And, yes, while these purchases are beneficial, they’re not always urgent.
So without clear planning, you may find yourself spending on items that you believe you’ll use in January… only to realize you don’t use them and (oh yeah) you blew our budget.
How to Avoid the Holiday Debt Trap and Overspending
While you’re decking the halls and enjoying time with friends and loved ones, it’s easy to fall into the trap of overspending if you aren’t careful.
So, let’s talk about actionable steps - a la planning and mindful spending - that you can take to avoid the holiday debt trap.
Step 1: Shop with a Plan
Impulse shopping is one of the biggest culprits when it comes to overspending during the holidays.
Without a clear plan, it’s easy to get carried away with special sales, last-minute finds, and “perfect” gifts for everyone.
So instead of “winging it” when you go shopping, create a list ahead of time and stick to it. Determine who you need to buy for and set a spending limit for each person.
Pro Tip: Download a budgeting app to keep track of your spending as you go. That way, you’ll always know how much you’ve spent and how much is left in your budget.
Step 2: Limit “Treat Yo’self” Spending
The holiday season often triggers a “treat yo’self” mindset, and while self-care is important, it’s easy to overspend when you start buying little indulgences here and there.
Trust me, those small, harmless purchases can add up quickly whether it’s splurging on designer items, or just getting an extra latte every day.
The goal? Set a “treat yo’self”budget for each pay period (or month) and stick to it… just like you would with gifts for others.
Pro Tip: Instead of spending it, redirect any left over “treat yo’self” money into a holiday savings fund or emergency fund.
Step 3: Prioritize Experiences Over Things
It’s soooo tempting to shower your loved ones with material gifts, but experiences often hold more value - and tend to be cheaper.
Whether it’s a game/movies night, cooking dinner together, or taking a day trip, experiences create lasting memories without the price tag of expensive gifts.
Pro Tip: Offer to host a gift-free gathering or suggest a gift exchange with a spending limit to keep things more manageable.
Step 4: Alternative Gift Ideas
Looking for gifts that won’t break the bank? Consider giving your time, skills, or homemade gifts. These gifts are meaningful and often cost little to nothing.
You could cook a homemade meal, create a personalized coupon book offering services like babysitting or dog-walking, or give the gift of your time with a heartfelt experience.
Pro Tip: For those who do want to buy something physical, focus on budget-friendly but thoughtful items.
Shop for handmade or locally sourced products that feel more personal than mass-produced ones. Or… buy them a plant (because who doesn’t love a plant?!)
Step 5: Be a Smart Shopper
Take advantage of sales, but be strategic about when and how you shop.
Black Friday, Cyber Monday, and pre-holiday sales can offer some great deals—but only if you’re actually saving money, not spending just because it’s on sale.
Comparison shop and ensure you’re getting the best price for the items you want to buy.
Also, look for free shipping deals and consider shopping second-hand for more affordable options.
Pro Tip: Set up price alerts for items you want to buy and wait until the price drops before purchasing.
Step 6: Pay-As-You-Go Strategy
It’s easy to put holiday purchases on credit cards and deal with the bill later, but this can quickly lead to debt that lingers long after the festivities end.
To avoid this, try the pay-as-you-go method: only purchase what you can afford upfront. If you don’t have enough savings, stick to your budget and get creative with alternatives.
Pro Tip: If you do have to use a credit card, aim to pay it off in full each month to avoid interest charges.
Step 7: Focus on What Matters
Above all, remember the true meaning of the season: spending quality time with loved ones and giving in ways that don’t have to revolve around money.
Remind yourself that it’s the thought and intention that counts, not the price tag.
Stay focused on experiences, relationships, and gratitude to keep you grounded and prevent overspending.
Pro Tip: Practice gratitude every day by journaling or setting aside time to meditate. Reflect on what really matters to you and how you can make this season meaningful without getting caught up in the commercial frenzy.
Align Holiday Fun with Financial Wellness
Between gifts, decorations, parties, and travel, it’s easy for spending to spiral out of control.
The good news? You don’t have to choose between enjoying the season and sticking to your budget.
This bonus section is all about practical, stress-free money moves to help you navigate the holiday season like a pro.
Here are my (personal) favorite tips for aligning holiday fun with financial wellness - without stressing yourself out:
Tip #1: Define Your Holiday Budget
Start with a (very) realistic holiday budget that does not include taking on debt.
Do this by taking a good look at your current finances and determining a reasonable amount that can be allocated towards holiday spending.
Make sure your budget covers the main categories that usually come up during the holidays such as:
Gifts and Wrapping: Set a limit per person or per family. This can keep you from splurging under pressure and help you stay mindful of each purchase.
Travel Costs: If you’ll be visiting family or friends, factor in transportation, lodging, and any meals on the road.
Holiday Parties and Entertainment: This includes anything from holiday gatherings to festive outings. Decide on a cap so these fun events don’t eat into your other priorities.
Decorations and Miscellaneous: Holiday décor can add up, so set a modest amount for decorations if it’s part of your tradition.
Remember: the idea is to be planned, mindful and realistic. And, if possible, create your holiday budget early so you can start saving for it gradually.
Tip #2: Set Boundaries
The holidays are an emotional time, and it’s easy to get swept up in the excitement of giving and celebrating.
Take time to establish limits so you can stay on track and avoid spontaneous spending. Here are a few examples to think about:
Communicate Gift Expectations: Be open with loved ones about your financial boundaries. Suggest a gift exchange or set a spending cap. This can help everyone feel less pressure to overspend.
Limit Shopping Events: It’s a lot easier to stick to your budget when you’re not actively exposing yourself to enticing sales. Avoid “just browsing” if you know you’ll be tempted.
Avoid Emotional Spending: Think of the holidays as a time to create memories rather than spend excessively. Focus on activities that bring joy without a big price tag, like a movie night at home or a holiday hike.
Remember: If you don’t set boundaries for yourself, someone else will set them for you.
Tip #3: Use a Savings Plan
The earlier you begin saving for the holiday season, the better prepared you’ll be.
For example, if you know your budget requires an extra $500, start setting aside money weekly or monthly.
Here are some practical ways you can stack your savings:
Automation: Consider setting up an automatic transfer into a designated “holiday fund.” It doesn’t have to be large amounts. Even $10 a week can make a difference over time.
Use Cash or a Prepaid Card: This helps you physically see what’s available to spend and avoid going over.
Shop with a List: Make a list and stick to it when you go shopping. This will help you avoid impulse buys and stay focused on essentials.
Tip #4: Stick to Your Plan and Enjoy the Season
Once you’ve set realistic financial goals, focus on following through.
Remind yourself that the holiday season isn’t about how much you spend, but rather about the connections you build and the joy you share.
Set clear and realistic financial goals, so you can go through the holidays and close out the year feeling empowered, in control, and ready to welcome the new year without holiday debt hanging over your head.
Wishing You a Fun, Happy and Debt-Free Holiday Season
It’s so easy to get swept up in the excitement of the holidays, with sales, celebrations, and the pressure to give bigger and better gifts.
If we're not careful, the holiday spending frenzy can lead to a mountain of debt that overshadows your financial goals.
But the truth is, holiday debt doesn't have to be a given.
If you understand the common triggers of overspending - whether it's gift-giving pressures, emotional shopping, or holiday sales - you're already a step ahead.
The most important things you can do are to set a realistic budget and stick to it, and prioritize meaningful experiences over material things and find creative ways to give and celebrate without breaking the bank.
When you plan ahead and are intentional with your spending, you can avoid financial strain while still enjoying the holidays.
Remember, staying on top of your finances isn't about perfection - it's about consistency.
With the right strategies and mindset, you can enjoy a debt-free holiday season and set yourself up for financial success in the new year.
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